You've reached the point of no return. It's time to file for divorce. The last thing you want is a long, drawn-out process. So, you're going to do everything in your power to help the negotiations go as smoothly as possible. Here are four steps you can take to eliminate the headaches.
Going into negotiations, you're going to want every round to be a win for you. Unfortunately, so will your spouse. Instead of going for the big issues right away, start on the small details. Starting with something small – that you know you can win – will help you build your confidence before you head on to the big ticket items on your list.
It's also important to note that giving up on a small issue can be to your advantage, especially early in the negotiations. For instance, relinquishing on a small issue may make it easier to win on a larger one later on.
It's important that you stay focused on the big picture – whatever that may be. Keeping your focus on the issues that are most important to you will help avoid pitfalls. For instance, if you have children, you want to keep your mind on custody issues. If you start getting side-tracked during negotiations, make a list of your priorities. Go back to that list whenever you feel yourself losing focus again.
You're expecting a battle on a major issue. You're surprised when your spouse concedes without a fight. Acknowledge that concession. It may take every ounce of pride you have left to make the acknowledgement, but it makes future negotiations easier. Not only that, but if negotiations break down and you end up in court, it will look better for you if you have attempted to keep things amicable.
Avoid Heat of the Moment Decisions
Don't let emotions get in the way of your negotiations. If you have to make a decision that is difficult to make, it's okay to ask for additional time. No one expects you to make decisions in the heat of the moment. In fact, that's discouraged.
Making decisions in the heat of the moment can lead to problems later, especially if you were dealing with feelings of guilt or depression. Before you reach a decision, ask for a break. Walk away for a moment and regroup.
Divorce is never easy. However, negotiations that go smoothly can eliminate many of the stressful moments that divorce proceedings often bring with them. These simple tips will help your negotiations go more smoothly. For more advice, speak to a divorce attorney, such as those at the Law Office of Jared T. Amos.